How-To Thursdays: How to Make a Guestlist

Thursday, March 10, 2011

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 Soooo you've gotten the easy stuff covered, you've picked a venue, got a dress, found an amazing planner, your dream photographer...EVERYthing is peachy right?? NOTTTTT, after all that you are faced with the MOST dreaded task in wedding planning...yup u guessed it...the GUESTLIST! 

For some people this is very easy, just invite best friends, blood relatives and a few of your closest coworkers right? In our culture it is NOWHERE near this simple. Reason being that we are from a culture where weddings are literally one the BIGGEST occasions a family will ever celebrate. It is a thing of joy, for what seems like anybody you have ever crossed paths with since birth, loll. When people hear you are getting married EVERYbody wants to be there to celebrate with you, whether you know them or not. Weddings are known to be community events. I have aunts that will come from Arizona or California to go to a DMV wedding, they will call my Mom and tell her to get her "gele" ready. I'm always like "but Mommy you weren't invited by the couple" and she's like "and so what, I was invited by a guest!" All I ever can do is laugh and shake my head! But that is just how it's done where we are from! Many brides don't even have solid guest lists, they'll send out maybe 250-300 invitations to close family and friends but prepare a hall and cater food for 400-500 people, making provisions for the guaranteed uninvited attendants. One of my friends recently even asked me if I knew of a hall that could hold up to 1,000 people...all I could do was stare at her blankly because my next question was going to be do you know that is 100, 6ft round tables, are you even concerned with decor?

Lately though, I've seen a shift from huge, 800 guests Nigerian weddings to weddings that are smaller and more intimate. More and more young couples are getting very selective about venue, decor, and overall ambiance. It's hard to control these variables when you have to decorate 80 tables or feed 800 people. In situations like that it is hard to have it all, unless you have an astronomical budget. Due to these factors becoming more important to young brides, the days of dancing into your reception hall and 40% of the crowd being strangers, are beginning to fade away. Which is why I feel it's important to let you guys know its OKAY to be selective of your guest list! Do NOT let people guilt you into not having the wedding of your dreams. If you want an intimate affair you can have that! If you want a huge wedding that is okay too, remember your wedding day is all about what you and your fiancee want!

Fumbling through the Internet I found this flowchart on someones blog page and I thought it was a really cute way to decide who to invite to your event and who to leave OFF the guest list!

pic above from www.corbisimages.com





      


I found some other helpful pointers on ehow.com on how to come up with a guest list! 

1. Sit down with your fiancee' and list everyone you can think of to invite.

2. Use the one-year rule for friends: If you haven't had a meaningful conversation with this person within the last year, don't invite him or her.

3. Ask your parents on both sides to help you cut people from the list.

4. Avoid the "If I invite this cousin, I must invite all cousins" trap. And don't feel obligated to invite people who invited you to their wedding. Relationships change.


5. Exclude children if possible. Suddenly a family of six is a manageable party of two.


6. Address the invitations only to those you intend to invite. If your single friend gets an invitation and isn't seeing anyone seriously, you don't have to include "and guest." It is a very BAD idea to not invite married couples as a pair though. Never invite the Mr. and leave out the Mrs. or vice versa!

7. Keep the list limited to personal friends. Do you hang out with co-workers away from the office? If not, don't invite them.

8. Make sure that the same number of people are invited from each side. This will prevent the in-laws from feeling cheated.

9. Keep in mind that on average, about 25 percent of your guests won't be able to make it.


10. Make a first and second list. Put the absolutely-must-invites on the first list, and as the RSVPs come in, send an invitation from the second list for each regret.


If you are already married did you have a guest list? If so how hard was it to choose who to invite and who not to invite? If you plan on getting married in the future how do you feel about guest lists??? Do you want to have an intimate gathering or a huge party?? What are your thoughts on the tips I listed above?? Talk to me I want to hear from you all!

Stay Beautiful My Loves,
Memi



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Ah! Mazing Vendor Corner: SkratcHaus Studios

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

I was blessed enough to sit and have a discussion with the wonderful Timi Majek, CEO and Founder of SkratcHaus Studios. They are known for their beautiful wedding invitation and stationary but they do wayy more than that! She was such a sweet soul and it was very interesting to be able to discuss and figure out what makes her tick as a Mom, successful businesswoman, and artist! Please enjoy!

Memi: Thanks for taking time out and sitting with us!
Timi: No problem at all!

Memi: Tell me about yourself and how you started your business
Timi: I actually grew up surrounded by a lot of art. All through high school at Federal Government Girls’ College Sagamu in Nigeria my focus was in the arts. I got accepted in to the General Arts program at Yaba College of Technology, Lagos and after a two-year stint there I moved to the United States in 1999 and started taking college business classes. Eventually, I realized my passion was deeply rooted in the arts and I changed my major to graphic design. In 2001, I got a scholarship to Columbus College of Art and Design, Ohio where I double majored in advertising and graphic design. It was there I honed my design skills and really began to understand the concept of design beyond “oh it looks cool, pretty and beautiful.”
After graduation I moved to Baltimore, MD and worked at an advertising agency for a couple of years.  I later moved to Atlanta still working a 9-5, doing freelance work and studying for my Maters in Graphic Design at the Savannah College of Art and Design. In the midst of all of this SkratcHaus Studios was launched in 2007, focusing on small business branding and direct marketing. Invitation requests had always been part of the scope for SkratcHaus but things picked up right about the time I finished my Masters. And shortly after graduation I decided to launch Recherché by SkratcHaus Studios, which is the invitations and fine stationery label by SkratcHaus Studios. 
The biggest thing was realizing what my passion was and sticking to it no matter what came my way. Because believe me, growing up in Lagos, Nigeria, my parents and I got blank stares when family and friends found out I was going to be an Art major in college. I thank God for my parents because they encouraged their children to follow their passions with no preconceived limits. My sister is a microbiologist and my brother is a computer scientist and I have 2 other siblings who are into finance and accounting. They supported and still support our dreams no matter what. 
Memi: What do you love about making designer invitations?
Timi: I think the biggest thing for me is working with clients that really understand what they want and being able to bring their vision to life. Anyone can go through a catalog, pick something and be ready to go. For me, it is something very personal that represents you and your wedding or event. It is the first thing people will see. So, the biggest joy for me in all of this is finishing a job and having the client say this is EXACTLY what I wanted or this is what I wanted it to be!
Memi: What keeps you motivated through all the bumps in the road? What keeps you going?
Timi: I derive a lot of inspiration from a lot of sources. Being a trained artist you see things very differently, your ideas and the way you interpret things is very different. I have learnt that if you quit you’ll never know if you’ll succeed. I’ve been faced with that choice many times before but my faith in God and my daughter keep me going. When she was born I got a new outlook on how to see things and how to interpret things. Seeing her is just like watching a mini me, even the most simple, mundane things she does motivate me. I do what I do to leave a legacy for her.  I also want her to have me as an example to always look up to. Taking the training I have, the things that inspire me and then introducing luxury and finesse is a beautiful thing. Aside from that I would say beautiful things and good people. They are very important and they keep me going every day! And I paint when I have the time to which is very rare so I cherish those moments.
Memi: How do you make sure you stay innovative and one of the best in the industry?
Timi: Number one I try to keep up with trends, see what others are doing and why they are doing it. Then it is important to look beyond what you think you are capable of doing, and being able to take it a step further. If I reach a solution for something and I’ve done that thing before, even if the client wants that I try to present something different to the client, as a way to push the envelope. As much as it’s new to them and me, I’m able to take it a step further. It is hard to keep up with what is going on out there and for me creating new things is just as important as keeping up with what is already out there.
Memi: What was your worst experience with a client? Your best?
Timi: I won’t call it a negative experience per se, but more of a learning experience: is when clients are not forthright with their budgets, after investing time into a concept and having the client walk away from it or having to tell them I can’t do it for what they are asking is always a sad thing.  The good part is that I’ve learnt from those situations. So it works both ways, you may lose a client but you gain some wisdom. So I try to understand what they have to start with upfront so I know what I can do. And I try to get the best solution within what they have because let’s face it everyone is on a budget!
My best client experience … I’ve had quite a few. I have a particular repeat client, she always knows what she wants, and she is a free spirit so I think our personalities work well together. The best clients to work with are those that know exactly what they want. I love when people come to me prepared with an idea and we’re able to communicate with each other. They appreciate what I’m here to do for them; I understand their needs and do my best to get them what they want.
Memi: What is your personal favorite invitation design?
Timi: Oh wow! A lot of the invitations I’ve done! Within the last couple of years I would have to say my showcase piece is the one I did for Natalie Jacobs…the purple and silver one (below). I have a couple of them but for right now those are the ones that take me to my happy place. The reasons I love them is the bride was GREAT to work with. It is such a simple design but it’s the details that really make it what it is!
Memi: What are some of your dream clients? Who would you LOVE to work with?
Timi: Today, there are so many people I would love to work with. Honestly, when it comes to events I look at them all differently. Overall I would have to say Tina Turner. When she is turns 75 or 80, I would LOVE to do the invites for her party because I know that whatever she does will be amazing! And if Oprah ever marries Steadman they could give me a call to and I would love to do her wedding invites as well!
Memi: What can future clients expect from SkratcHaus invites? What services do you offer?
Timi: First of all, we give our clients first class service, the BEST they can get. As far as products we offer everything from every component that goes in an invitation suite to menus, programs, floor decals for dance floors, wall decals, lighting pieces, gobos, favors etc. We are not limited to what is out there right now and we are constantly working with event planners and event designers to bring whatever they need to an event.
Photo Credits: Theori Images and Dave Batterman. http://www.battermanphoto.com//


Memi: Thanks so much is there anything you want our readers to know about you?




Timi: I just want to say THANK you for getting to know me, and hopefully I get to know about more of your readers who will be in need of any of our services!
How could they get in contact with you?
By Phone: 404.593.1672
Like them on FaceBook

Timi's work is also featured in the latest copy of Munaluchi Bridal Magazine.

GIVEAWAY!!!! GIVEAWAY!!!! GIVEAWAY!!!!
You know how we love giveaways @ BCG!!!! Well SkratcHaus Studios is offering a giveaway just for our readers: 
25 FREE matching thank you cards for all invitation orders placed before August 31st 2011. ALL you have to do is mention "BCG"  during your consultation.

You can ALSO enter a drawing to win a set of 10 personalized note cards by liking them on FaceBook. A random winner will be announced on May 1 2011.




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How To Thursdays: How to Select Your Wedding Dress

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Welcome backkk to Part 2 of selecting your wedding dress! So I hope everyone took their time and figured out what their body shape is?? Okay good! Because today we will discuss the various TYPES of wedding dresses that are on the market! Almost EVERY wedding dress will fit in one of five categories : A-line, Empire Waist, Mermaid/Hourglass, Ball Gown, or Sheath. It's important to know what kind of silhouette you are going for, do you want to show off your curves? Look taller? Look slimmer? It is also important to decide your wedding style before selecting your wedding dress because a beach wedding and a ball room wedding will call for two VERY different styles of dress. I'm just going to describe the different styles and show some pictures for a little inspiration for each category.






The A-Line Gown


The A-line dress features a shape that is fitted around the bodice and flows out to the ground, resembling the outline of an uppercase A. The dress flows fluidly from the bust to the hem with an unbroken line. Due to its classic and simple style, the A-line dress is appropriate for any occasion, from a quiet backyard gathering, to a traditional church ceremony.


A-line gowns are recommended for the most body types except for women who do not have a defined waistline. These are the most popular type of  wedding gown shape. You will see way more a-line dresses than any other silhouette.

While neither the A-line nor Princess has a defined waistline, the Princess style does have noticeable vertical panels.

 
Vera Wang
Aire Bareclona: Bobbie




 



   


  

 



 


 


  

The Empire-Waist Gown

An empire dress is defined by the raised waistline that sits just below the bust, from which the rest of the dress flows down to the hem. I typically see a lot of empire gowns for beach weddings and more informal events.


Empire waist gowns are recommended for women who are petite or do not have a defined waistline. They may also be considered for women with an inverted pear shaped body.


This style is not recommended for women with hour glass figures.







La Sposa - Degrain

Kittychen Couture: Flora
 


The Mermaid/Hourglass Gown

The mermaid silhouette contours to the body from the chest to the knee, then flares out to the hem. This is a very sexy look that highlights the curves of a woman’s body. For this reason, you must be confident and comfortable in your skin to pull off this dramatic style. This is by FAR my favorite dress silhouette!


Mermaid style gowns are recommended for woman with a figure that they want to show off.

This style is not recommended for women who are petite, thick or short waisted, or have an inverted pear shaped body type.





 
 
Pnina Tornai
 
Pronovias -Finisterre

 

      The Sheath Gown
The sheath dress has a narrow shape that flows straight down from the neckline to the hem. This dress, tends to hug the body and show any and all of your curves The column is appropriate for all types of weddings, especially causal occasions on the beach, or intimate evening events at a banquet hall.

Sheath style gown are recommended for thin figured or petit framed women. They may also be considered for some women with a hour glass figure shaped body.

This style is not recommended for women who are thick or short waisted, full figured, or have a pear shaped body type. 



  
White by Vera Wang for David's Bridal
  

  
Marchesa



 

   The Ball Gown 
The ball gown style is perfect for those brides envisioning a fairy tale wedding. This silhouette pairs a fitted bodice with a full skirt that can either be one piece or separates. The ball gown is most appropriate for large, traditional weddings where the dress will be consistent with the formality of the event


Ball gown type dresses are recommended for the following body types: Full figured, pear shaped, and thin.


This style may also be considered for some people who are petite or have a hour glass figure.







Oliver Tolentino

Carlos Pignatelli





  






(info from http://www.arcamax.com/weddings/gowns and http://www.weddingsolutions.com/fashion_and_beauty/Dress_Styles.html)



There you have it!! Five different sillhouettes from you to choose from! Which one do you think you will go with? What is your favorite? Talk to me!!




Stay Beautiful My Loves,
Memi
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Beauty Sightings: Spring + Beautiful Shoes = HAPPY FEET!!!!!!

Tuesday, March 1, 2011


Happy New Month!!!! Spring is in the air and I am loving IT!!!!!

Cherry Blossoms, Spring Blooms, Flirty Dresses, Wedding Season and SHOES!!!! More Shoes!!! 

Like MOST girls I have a love affair with BEAUTIFUL shoes! I have been collecting photos of jaw-dropping GORGEOUS shoes that would be the perfect "glass slipper" for you on your wedding day! Some brides may overlook the shoe-selection process and say "Oh nobody will see my shoes anyway" but nowadays photographer detail shots are becoming very popular and add another element to your wedding album, you want a shoe that will photograph well and that you will be excited to show off when it's garter tossing time ;-)

Here are some show-stoppers I've come across! 
ENJOY! 




Christian Louboutin



Jimmy Choo



Christian Louboutin
 

Christian Louboutin

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Christian Louboutin



Christian Louboutin





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Badgley Mischka


Christian Louboutin


Francesco Sacco


Christian Louboutin



Christian Louboutins



Jimmy Choo
 

Soul Fusion



http://brownsugax3x3.tumblr.com/post/3428484838/love-shoes-3
 


Kate Spade New York
 

Custom Casadei Couture





Christian Louboutin
 


Most of the shoes I posted ARE designer shoes, but you dont HAVE to spend a LOT of money on your wedding shoes! Steve Madden, Aldo, and Jessica Simpson are just a few brands that offer designer looking shoes for less! These photos are just some inspiration to get you to start thinking out of the box and know your wedding shoes do NOT have to be "Dyeables" or ordinary white satin, lol!

Tell me what shoes were your favorite! Do you think shoes are an important part of your wedding attire? What kind of shoes do you want to wear on your specail day? Feel free to share pictures with us too!


Stay Beautiful My Loves,
Memi

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