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Soooo you've gotten the easy stuff covered, you've picked a venue, got a dress, found an amazing planner, your dream photographer...EVERYthing is peachy right?? NOTTTTT, after all that you are faced with the MOST dreaded task in wedding planning...yup u guessed it...the GUESTLIST!
For some people this is very easy, just invite best friends, blood relatives and a few of your closest coworkers right? In our culture it is NOWHERE near this simple. Reason being that we are from a culture where weddings are literally one the BIGGEST occasions a family will ever celebrate. It is a thing of joy, for what seems like anybody you have ever crossed paths with since birth, loll. When people hear you are getting married EVERYbody wants to be there to celebrate with you, whether you know them or not. Weddings are known to be community events. I have aunts that will come from Arizona or California to go to a DMV wedding, they will call my Mom and tell her to get her "gele" ready. I'm always like "but Mommy you weren't invited by the couple" and she's like "and so what, I was invited by a guest!" All I ever can do is laugh and shake my head! But that is just how it's done where we are from! Many brides don't even have solid guest lists, they'll send out maybe 250-300 invitations to close family and friends but prepare a hall and cater food for 400-500 people, making provisions for the guaranteed uninvited attendants. One of my friends recently even asked me if I knew of a hall that could hold up to 1,000 people...all I could do was stare at her blankly because my next question was going to be do you know that is 100, 6ft round tables, are you even concerned with decor?
Lately though, I've seen a shift from huge, 800 guests Nigerian weddings to weddings that are smaller and more intimate. More and more young couples are getting very selective about venue, decor, and overall ambiance. It's hard to control these variables when you have to decorate 80 tables or feed 800 people. In situations like that it is hard to have it all, unless you have an astronomical budget. Due to these factors becoming more important to young brides, the days of dancing into your reception hall and 40% of the crowd being strangers, are beginning to fade away. Which is why I feel it's important to let you guys know its OKAY to be selective of your guest list! Do NOT let people guilt you into not having the wedding of your dreams. If you want an intimate affair you can have that! If you want a huge wedding that is okay too, remember your wedding day is all about what you and your fiancee want!
Fumbling through the Internet I found this flowchart on someones blog page and I thought it was a really cute way to decide who to invite to your event and who to leave OFF the guest list!
pic above from www.corbisimages.com
I found some other helpful pointers on ehow.com on how to come up with a guest list!
1. Sit down with your fiancee' and list everyone you can think of to invite.
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